This is more of a reminder to myself but feel like everyone could benefit from this.
Raise your hand if you ever compared yourself to another person? It could be looks, grades, clothing, how they do something, anything! And you thought to yourself “By golly, I wish I was as awesome as them!” (You probably omit the by golly part… but sometimes it just sneaks into my thoughts). The next thing you know you start putting yourself down for not being as cool as this other person. You build up into your mind as they perfect human being that does everything right and everyone just absolutely adores them.
I went through this recently. As in this morning. You see, I really want to be awesome in all aspects of my life.
I want to kick butt at weight loss and being healthy. I want to go to school and great amazing grades. I want to have a super clean and decorative apartment.
I just want it all.
Including making my husband super proud of me to have such an awesome well-rounded gamer wife! The only problem is I have not been playing games religiously my whole entire life. In fact, it is more of a hobby than a lifestyle. Something I just want to do for fun here and there. Then there are these other people that are freaking awesome and fantastic and probably invest way more time in gaming than I even want to.
And what do I do? I compare myself to those people. Like seriously. I am not going to be magically awesome at something unless I put in the time, and there are just some things in life I cannot put the time in for. I got other stuff to do! I have a whole other list of things I can be awesome at… but no, this one little thing has got me down.
And I obsess over it.
Why am I not the very best? Why can’t I impress my husband with my mad ninja moves?
Probably because I don’t have mad ninja moves. You know what I do have?
A sense of humor, a fairly clean apartment, a body that weighs 80 pounds less than it used to, and some pretty amazing friends that I like to spend time with. And guess what?
There is nothing wrong with that. Not at all.
When you compare yourself to others, you are just setting yourself up to fall on your face and think negatively about yourself. It is not worth it.
That other person also has other stuff going on in their lives. They aren’t perfect, but they can be awesome. Just like you can be awesome being yourself as well!
So don’t beat yourself up because you aren’t someone else.
Love yourself for being you.